I was having dinner with a couple of friends the other day, when one of them started talking about how stressed he is that he can’t find a way to rearrange his class schedule so that he doesn’t have an hour space in between two classes. (wheww, that was a mouthful.)
An hour! A measly little hour!!!!
I looked at him in disbelief.
“An hour? Dude, are you serious? That’s nothiiiing! I used to have 2, sometimes 3 hours between classes when I was in University back in Miami. What’s the problem? Go and get a coffee or something?”
He looked at ME in disbelief.
“A coffee? By myself?!? That’s social suicide! I would never do that! I’d quicker go wait in my car that have a coffee by myself!”
His reaction reminded me of a time when I was having lunch by myself on the stairs outside of my office. I like to do that sometimes. You know, just eat my lunch in peace without having to talk to anyone. It helps me reflect, it puts me at ease, it gives my mind time to rest and recharge. (In fact, I like to do a lot of things by myself..I like to travel by myself, I like to shop by myself, I like to work out by myself, I like to get my nails done by myself, I like to blog by myself..sometimes I even like to go out by myself!) But about 10 minutes or so into my very peaceful and quiet “alone time” lunch, one of my friends came up the stairs and was very distressed to see that I was sitting alone…
“Shoo Danielle? Are you ok? What’s wrong? Why are you sitting alone? Let me come and join you!!”
I explained to her with a huge smile on my face, “Everything is ok! Really, I’m fine! I just like to have lunch alone sometimes.”
My friend, being the sweetheart that she is..sat down next to me anyway..
Don’t get me wrong here..I’m not knocking the Lebanese for being overly friendly. Actually I love that about the Lebanese people. I’m just saying that I like to be alone sometimes..😉 I think it’s a very important part of life,,of living… But hell, maybe I’m just strange and anti-social?
Which brings me to my next point. And I know that this isn’t particular to Lebanese society on the whole, but I feel like a lot of people these days don’t like to do anything on their own. From what I understand about the social scene here in Lebanon, people like to do things in packs..and only in packs..
Embrace and cherish your alone time I say! There will come a time when you’ll wish you had more of it..
I hope this is making sense.
Anyway, what do you think?
Do you spend a lot of time by yourself, are you cool with doing things by yourself, or are you always waiting for your friends to make plans before you do something?